Working Towards Gratitude

Sometimes Thanksgiving can be a lovely time for parades, pies and peaceful gatherings with family and/or friends. But sometimes Thanksgiving can get lost in an avalanche of anxiety and pumpkin-spiced laced meltdowns. I always deal with some form of this during the holidays (probably because I set a million writing deadlines for myself). Here are some ways I've learned to diffuse my anxiety and enjoy the season the way God intended, with a grateful heart. 

• Allow people to manage their own expectations and emotions. We are never going to be able to make everyone happy. Each person is responsible for creating an enjoyable day for themselves and not relying on everyone else for it. Set healthy boundaries and work with what is best for you. 
• Don't try to do everything. Do you find yourself dreading the holidays every year? You may need to scale back and say no sometimes. For instance, if you host an event at your house, try delegating dishes. Ask people to stay and help clean up, or hire a maid service, just this once. If you have ten people requesting ten different favorites, send them each the recipe and tell them you'd love to see their take on the dish. 
• Discuss the day with your immediate family. Let everyone pick one or two traditions that are their favorites. Make a list with top favorites, medium favorites, and optional favorites. Then try to cut back on a few things, replacing them with less stressful alternatives. 
• Spread things out. Instead of trying to see every single family member on an actual day, try planning get-togethers throughout the month. 
• Cut back on gifts. For years now, I've given my kids about three things each. Something to wear, something to read, and something they want. Along with stocking stuffers and gifts from relatives, this is always plenty. 
• Find a way to volunteer as a family. Help out at a soup kitchen, wrap presents for Blue Santa, collect food for a local food bank, or read Christmas stories at a local nursing home. There are always ways to give back. 
• Have gratitude. Every time you begin to feel overwhelmed, no matter what, think of five things to be thankful for. 

Hope these ideas are helpful! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!